Shi…oops, I mean, stuff happens. I’m referring to relapse, specifically. Relapse is a part of the recovery process. It is a crappy part, but a part nonetheless. It is extremely rare to have a patient enter treatment and stay on the straight and narrow without a single relapse at some point in his/her treatment episode. I state this fact not to give patients an excuse to relapse, but to help to avoid the guilt and shame that keep patients using illicit substances once they do relapse. Relapse, like shi…stuff…happens.
Typically when people make the decision to enter substance abuse treatment, they are “gung ho” about making changes and are “all in” regarding their recovery. In the field we call this the Pink Cloud stage. Being excited about recovery is a very good thing; the problem lies in the ennui that comes after the Pink Could stage ends and everyday normal sets in. When that Pink Cloud lifts, everyday normalcy can seem…boring, despite being exactly what they expressed they wanted most when entering treatment.
Education regarding what to expect throughout each stage of treatment is the best defense a patient can have to protect his/her recovery. Any counselor or addictions therapist worth his/her salt will arm patients with adequate knowledge from the very start of treatment. After all, it is easier to handle situations if one is expecting them and has a plan of action to deal with them when they arise. This should include identifying the individual triggers for illicit substance use. Knowing the things that make a patient want to use, and having a plan of action to avoid those things and for how to handle them when they are unavoidable, are important elements of any treatment plan.
For anyone in recovery, it is also important to have support outside of the treatment setting. This entails more than simply finding a sponsor. This means changing the people that one surrounds oneself with, which can be a painful process. It means cutting off people that are damaging to one’s recovery, even if they are viewed as friends. It means not frequenting the same places that led/lead to using, or that contain people that use. One needs to change one’s playmates as well as one’s playground. There are many avenues to finding recovery support. A simple online search can be a good starting point for finding support meetings in one’s area such as A.A., N.A., Celebrate Recovery, etc. Any treatment center should also be able to provide referrals upon request. Regardless of where it’s found, outside support is essential for anyone in recovery.
Recovery is never easy. Few things in life that are worth having are. One of the most awful aspects of addiction is that it is fatal if left untreated, so the choice should be easy, even if recovery itself is not. The choice is yours: life or death. What’s it gonna be? I hope you choose life. There are many beautiful things left to see and do. There are people that need you. You are here on this earth for a reason. You are still here because you are meant to make a difference to someone. That is why we are all here. That is why we all have differing struggles and different talents, to aid each other in this place and on this journey, until we reach our final destination. And we don’t need to do it alone. That in and of itself is a beautiful thing, even when the world is not. Choose life; there is more beyond the struggle.